Earlier tonight, a lesbian friend was relating an innocent comment that was made to her regarding the two of us sharing the same "lifestyle". At first, I honestly passed over this comment without much thought. While discussing the conversation with my boyfriend, however, a few casual observations came out, so to speak.
What is the "lifestyle" that best describes me? A lifestyle of music making, of movie watching, of literature reading, of playing with my dog? A lifestyle of studying, of learning, of teaching? A lifestyle of diversity, of inclusion, of compassion, of forgiveness, of love?
No, sadly, the person who made the comment was probably referring to the "lifestyle" of my sex life. Of whom I choose to sleep with. Of whom I happen to have biological attraction! Is that really a lifestyle? When the average heterosexual person meets the average homosexual person, why do they immediately imagine said homosexual in the act of intercourse? I CERTAINLY don't envision late-night Cinemax every time I meet a straight person! (...eww...)
I don't have hard feelings about the comment. This was just someone's way of trying to verbalize something they don't really understand, but are sincerely working at understanding. I see culture changing all around me, every day, even under great resistance and duress. I believe in a better world -- I hope to see it one day.